DEAR DEIDRE: OUR sex life has taken a nose-dive and I think it may be down to me watching pornography.
I’m 34 and my wife is 35. She’s so sexy that just thinking about her can turn me on.
The problem is I spend most evenings alone, as she works in a pub.
I can’t go to sleep without masturbating and I watch porn on my laptop when she’s away working. But when I do have the chance to have sex with my wife, I lose my erection.
I know she is getting a bit fed-up with it and so am I. I love her and don’t want to resort to Viagra at my age. I eat healthily and I exercise. I don’t smoke or drink either.
Thinking about it, I can’t remember the last time I gave my wife an orgasm. Is this how our sex life has to be from now on?
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DEIDRE SAYS: It doesn’t have to be but you need to wean yourself off pornography to get the most out of your sex life.
Avid watchers often find that porn dulls normal sex responses. My e-leaflet on Internet Pornography Worries explains how best to turn your attention away from the screen and back to your wife.
Suggest some passion in the before you head out to work.
Most women don’t orgasm through intercourse alone so ask her to explain where and how best to touch her for full arousal.
