DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE been seeing my boyfriend for three months, so isn’t it time we were officially a couple?
I’m 17 and he’s 25. We’ve seen each other eight times. I know it isn’t much, but he was working away.
Do you think it’s too soon to ask if we are boyfriend and girlfriend?
He told me tonight: “I wouldn’t say I’m single, because I’m seeing you, but I wouldn’t say I am in a relationship either.”
I felt hurt by his remark.
DEIDRE SAYS: You have not been seeing each other for long and the age gap could mean he sees being “official” as more serious and lasting than you do.
Do you enjoy time together chatting and making a real connection, or is the relationship more physical?
If he is more focused on the sex you share, I think you will carry on being hurt by his attitude and you are best breaking with him.
My e-leaflet Learning About Relationships can help you decide if he is right for you.
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