DEAR DEIDRE: THE guy I’ve been dating says he loves me but that I’m distracting him from his work. He’s breaking up with me because of it.
He says he’s going to see another girl for sex and we’ll just be friends until we get back together in a year, when he’ll allow himself to fall madly in love with me.
I’m 25 and he’s 28. We were seeing one another for a couple of months before agreeing to be exclusive.
He broke off with me just a couple of days after that saying I was stopping him from focusing on his work.
He is the sort of person who likes everything to be under control. He freaked out when I had to cancel a date because it was the only day my brother was in town and I had to see him.
I’m hurt and angry but a part of me wants to wait for him. What he says makes sense in a weird way.
DEIDRE SAYS: Maybe, but he’s unlikely to change. You get back together in a year and then what?
Get dropped every time he has a new challenge? What if you go on to have children?
You can’t finesse their moods. He needs help to become more adaptable, because that’s life.
If he can’t see that, you’re better moving on.
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