DEAR DEIDRE: FOR the past seven years I’ve been sleeping alone while my wife sleeps in the spare room.
I can’t live like this any more but I can’t see this changing. It makes me depressed.
We’ve been together nearly 20 years and I can barely recall the last time we had sex.
We have talked and argued about it but she is adamant she never wants sex again.
I’m 59 and she’s 56. We don’t have much money to spare so I can’t afford to move out and I don’t really want to.
We get on OK except for the issue of sex. Am I just being selfish? I am at my wits’ end.
DEIDRE SAYS: I suspect she’s as unhappy as you. Get yourselves out of those bedrooms and out of the house. The pair of you need to be talking and getting connected again.
Is she depressed or unwell? Did she really enjoy sex before? My e-leaflet Has She Gone Off Sex? will help you sort this out.
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