DEAR DEIDRE: A GIRL messaged my husband on Facebook saying he is her biological father. We’re now awaiting the result of a DNA test and I fear it will wreck our family.
He has no memory of her mother but this girl is the image of him. She is 22, he is 39 and I am 36.
I didn’t react well. I mostly felt jealous.
I’m his second wife and he already has two sons who are 14 and 16 and live with us.
My husband thinks I should be more supportive, but I struggle that now I’ve got to share him with yet someone else.
He’s so caught up with this “long-lost” daughter he can’t see that he’s neglecting his sons – and me.
DEIDRE SAYS: Say you two need a serious talk. Try not to leak jealousy and stay the grown-up.
Tell him his sons need his regular attention – and he should help them get to know their half-sister so they see she is not a threat.
Act the bigger person yourself and reach out to her – a child who grew up without knowing her dad – and you will feel stronger.
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