DEAR DEIDRE: MY darling wife has been paralysed down one side since having a stroke a year ago. I have mobility problems myself but managed to look after her. I organised that we would move into a housing-association bungalow together. We have both turned 80 now. She had to go into respite care while I […]
DEAR DEIDRE: MY darling wife has been paralysed down one side since having a stroke a year ago. I have mobility problems myself but managed to look after her.
I organised that we would move into a housing-association bungalow together. We have both turned 80 now.
She had to go into respite care while I organised the move but I was then taken into hospital with heart problems and I’m still there now.
I always promised I’d never let her go into a care home, but it’s now out of my hands.
They say she’ll stay in the home for the rest of her life and I will move into the bungalow alone. It breaks my heart.
DEIDRE SAYS: I am so sorry but it sounds as if your wife now needs the nursing care the home can provide.
But you deserve the help you need to visit your wife every day.
Talk to the Age UK helpline (0800 169 6565) and see ageuk.org.uk.
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