DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE I suggested my wife and I should ease off on having sex every day, she hardly wants to do it at all.
We now have it once a month if I’m lucky, but we used to have it as soon as we got into bed every night.
My wife is 49 and she’s a nurse. I’m 46 and realised her shifts were demanding but we always found time to have sex.
Still, she looked so worn out one evening that I said: “Perhaps as you’re so tired, we should cut sex down,” and she seemed relieved.
Now she never suggests it or even comes on to me. She wears her bra to bed and she never kisses me.
I do loads of chores around the house and try to make sure she’s happy, but sex is only on the cards if I persist.
DEIDRE SAYS: Pick a moment when sex isn’t on the cards and ask your wife whether there is anything you can change that would help her enjoy sex more.
Maybe she simply feels exhausted but if she could be feeling the effects of the peri-menopause, suggest she talk it over with her GP.
My e-leaflet on Reviving A Woman’s Sex Drive can help too.
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