DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE started to find my best friend really attractive. The trouble is that we are both female and she has a boyfriend – who is a horrible person.
We have known each other for five years since we started work together. I am 23, she is 22.
I love spending time with her. She is gorgeous and makes me laugh. She is going through a really tough time with her boyfriend but I find it hard to give her advice because I am falling in love with her. She has no idea that I am bisexual, so how can I tell her that I cannot give her advice about her boyfriend because I want to be with her myself?
I am single at the moment and cannot imagine finding another partner while I feel like this.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your friend is having difficult time so do not complicate the situation by telling her how you feel.
Just say you do not know how to advise her and wait to see how things turn out with her boyfriend. If that relationship ends you can tell her then. My e-leaflet on Bisexual Issues will help.
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