DEAR DEIDRE: I FANTASISE about what life could be like with my personal trainer even though I’m happily married. I’m a 33-year-old guy. I wanted to get fit for a school reunion later this year so hired a personal trainer. I didn’t know at the time but he is gay. He’s 26. We chatted during […]
DEAR DEIDRE: I FANTASISE about what life could be like with my personal trainer even though I’m happily married.
I’m a 33-year-old guy. I wanted to get fit for a school reunion later this year so hired a personal trainer.
I didn’t know at the time but he is gay. He’s 26. We chatted during the sessions and he told me he liked me.
I admitted I’d been bi-curious since my late teens but never acted on these feelings. We’ve since kissed and pleasured one another.
He said we should stop this as he’s getting emotionally attached.
I confessed I liked him too. He just wants to be friends, but I can’t get him out of my head. I fantasise about a life together even though I love my wife.
IF your sex life could use a refresher, sensate focus exercises develop the sort of sex play most of us try when we are younger but then neglect.
My e-leaflet Sex-Play Therapy explains. Email me for a copy or private message me via Facebook.
DEIDRE SAYS: You know he is right. It is no more OK to cheat on your wife with another guy than with another woman.
Maybe you have suppressed gay feelings but you must stop this before someone gets hurt. Find a new personal trainer.
My e-leaflet Bisexual Issues will help you understand yourself and decide whether your marriage has a future, but you must sort that first.
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