DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend asks for two minutes so he can relieve himself using my breasts. I’m even allowed to watch TV while it’s happening, which says it all.
When we have sex, he doesn’t touch me below my breasts. He has never given me oral sex or used his hands down there.
There is no foreplay whatsoever. I keep wondering why I should do anything for him.
I am 36 and he is 38. We have been together for five years. He wants sex all the time but I find it boring.
We have never discussed why he doesn’t touch me. I don’t want to upset him, which I know it will.
He won’t do anything he doesn’t like doing. Other than that, he’s a good man.
I know you will say to sit him down and approach the subject with him tactfully, but I am not sure I can.
DEIDRE SAYS: He is either very selfish or extremely ignorant – or both. You are sparing his feelings at the expense of your own but he will not change until you spell out to him exactly how unhappy you are.
All women need sexplay other than intercourse to enjoy sex to the full.
My e-leaflet Help Your Partner Reach Orgasm explains more.
But if he refuses to change his ways, you really should move on.
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