DEAR DEIDRE: I TOLD my son and his girlfriend not to row in front of their son and now they won’t let me see my grandson.
They are both 24 and have always had big rows and even broke up before he went running back to her and then she got pregnant. We have supported them financially.
He called me six weeks ago in tears asking us to go over. I told them both they were being unfair on their ten-month-old boy. She took offence and has stopped me seeing the baby. I’m 49 and I’m heartbroken.
My son just says she is the mum and what she says goes. This is not the first time they’ve used the baby as a weapon. Every time they row, my husband and I suffer.
DEIDRE SAYS: And their baby suffers too, but grandparents often have to walk on eggshells.
Suggest to your son that their relationship is feeling the strains of the demands of being new parents and offer to babysit to give them couple time.
I hope that heals the breach but be very careful that any message you’re trying to get across sounds like a suggestion and not a criticism.
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