DEAR DEIDRE: COPING with my girlfriend’s lies is getting difficult.
We were on a break but still having sex and I found out she had been sleeping with another guy – sometimes on the same day – when I developed an STI.
She denied it at first but eventually confessed.
We were both treated and want to give it another go but I’m not sure I can cope with her lies. She is 28 and I am 36.
We thought we were perfect for one another and I want us to be together again, but she has lied in the past about seeing her ex.
They have a child but she insisted she never saw this guy.
Then it would turn out they’d taken her little girl out for the day.
I just never know whether to believe her or not.
DEIDRE SAYS: Why did she feel she had to lie about seeing her ex?
It is right for them to have contact about their child.
Who instigated this “break”? And why were you still having sex during it?
If your relationship is to work, you must have an honest talk about ground rules – which must include her ex seeing his child.
My e-leaflet Cheating – Can You Get Over It? should help.
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