DEAR DEIDRE: MY son’s ex-partner has stopped him from bringing their daughter to my house because she says it’s “inappropriate” for her to be left with “an old man”.
I’m a 58-year-old guy, divorced from my son’s mum but we are on good terms. My son and his partner are in their early thirties.
My son agreed to be a stay-at-home dad but their relationship broke down and they split up.
His ex now dictates when he can see his daughter, who is four.
She makes excuses why he can’t take her to his mother’s house and she has now stopped them coming to me, though my ex and I both often used to look after her.
Can I get legal help to gain access to my granddaughter?
DEIDRE SAYS: Your son’s ex is not putting her daughter’s needs first and your son should get his parenting time formalised in court.
He would then be able to choose who sees his daughter during “his” time – unless it would be unsafe.
Try contacting his ex direct, say how much you love your granddaughter and ask how you can reassure her she will be safe with you.
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