DEAR DEIDRE: MY first gay relationship was with my ideal man but, after months together and more time apart, he only wants to be friends. It’s so tough.
I am 25, he is 35. He is successful, family-oriented and doesn’t sleep around. We have tons in common and amazing sex but, nine months into our relationship, he broke up with me via text.
A year later he randomly messaged me and we met for a drink. My feelings hadn’t changed. In the time we’d been apart, he had got back with an ex, the love of his life, and been dumped again.
We ended up having sex that night. The next morning he said he didn’t regret it but he was not in love with me.
We still see one another, go out together every weekend and inevitably sleep together. I think about him 24/7 but I know he doesn’t think about me.
DEIDRE SAYS: It is sad but true that you are a sticking plaster for this guy’s emotional wounds.
Hear what he is saying. He is not in love with you.
You need to go cold-turkey, cut all contact and break the habit of this guy.
Only this way will you get him out of your head and your heart.
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