DEAR DEIDRE: I VERY much like the company of women but I seem to have no sexual ability these days. I like to satisfy a woman in bed but I can’t because I get no erection and have not had one for the last three years. I am 62 now. I have talked to my […]
DEAR DEIDRE: I VERY much like the company of women but I seem to have no sexual ability these days.
I like to satisfy a woman in bed but I can’t because I get no erection and have not had one for the last three years. I am 62 now.
I have talked to my doctor. He says it is an age thing but we found I can’t use drugs like Viagra because of side-effects.
I have tried various herbal products on the market which are supposed to help but nothing seems to make any difference.
I have had three lovely women friends over the last few years but I have given up on all of them after a while because of my problem.
They always tell me it doesn’t matter but deep down I believe that it must matter.
It also leaves me feeling useless, so it feels easier to make an excuse and stop seeing them.
I don’t know where to go from here.
DEIDRE SAYS: Intercourse is very symbolic of course but isn’t what is most pleasurable to most women.
Lacking an erection doesn’t need to be a major problem – as your women friends have told you.
How they like to be touched and caressed is important and this is what you need to find out when you next have a close relationship.
My e-leaflet Worried You’re Past It, Guys? explains more.
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