DEAR DEIDRE: I ALWAYS thought of myself as a strong, independent woman but I have been behaving like a stalker.
I am 41 and divorced. My daughter is at uni and living her own life. Bottom line is I am lonely but I am really worried about how I’ve been acting recently.
I did see a bloke for a few months but he found another woman and when I bombarded him with messages he cut off all contact.
I hated being alone so I decided to go on a dating site and found a guy who seemed lovely.
We talked, agreed it was going well and arranged to meet.
Then he had to cancel the meeting for family reasons and I felt driven to check up on him and he found out then blocked me. It’s as though I don’t trust anyone any more.
DEIDRE SAYS: Did your ex-husband deceive you? That could leave you struggling to trust and counselling could help
Meanwhile take the emphasis off seeing a new partner as the only answer to your loneliness. Build a busy social life.
It could lead to someone special emerging but without you pinning all your hopes of happiness on one person too soon.
My e-leaflet Widening Your Social Scene will help.
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