IS one of your New Year’s resolutions adding a little spice to your sex life?
A sex expert has revealed the kinkiest new trends for 2025 – from something called ”the joystick method” to keeping all the senses alive, these kinds are bound to make for steamy sessions in the bedroom (or elsewhere).
Dr Jessica O’Reilly, a sexologist and relationship pro, has come to rescue, serving up ”novel approaches” to sex, which she promised will lead to a more fulfilling experience between you and your loved one.
To enhance arousal and pleasure, Dr O’Reilly advised trying ”multisensory integration”, which involves stimulating all the senses – sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell – while sharing intimate moments.
This, she claimed, will ”create richer and more fulfilling experiences”.
Among her other top tips, the guru recommended people to switch things up and incorporate adventurous positions, with music in the background and even erotic art to add a little spice.
She wrote for Astro Glide: ”As we approach 2025, new year’s resolutions begin to take center-stage.
”Goals often relate to fitness, diet, finances, travel and daily practices with health and self-improvement topping the list of planned commitments.
”Relationships and sex may not claim top spots among resolutions despite the fact that prioritizing intimacy, pleasure, and connection can be just as transformative.
”Of course, the best sex of your life isn’t just about the physical act itself, but is intertwined with emotional connection, exploring desires, cultivating confidence, and embracing curiosity and playfulness.”
Estimates suggest that almost a staggering 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, and sexual satisfaction – or rather dissatisfaction – is a major driver for ending things, so keeping things interesting in the bedroom could even save your marriage.
To make add spark between the bedsheets, Dr O’Reilly first recommended visual stimulation.
She suggested using ”ambient lighting like dimmable lamps, coloured lightbulbs or candles to create a visually appealing environment”.
Feeling extra bold? Consider ”hanging erotic art or playing sexy videos in the background” while being intimate with your partner, she said.
Next, the sex expert explained how ”auditory enhancement” can be a turn-on when in the bedroom, especially when it’s tracks that ”move you”.
To ignite more passion, she wrote: ”You may opt for rhythms that guide your hips or symphonies that create crescendos of emotion.
”Use whispered affirmations and erotic storytelling to set the mood.”
Sex, naturally, involves skin-to-skin contact – but there are ways to take it even further with a range of different objects, from textured bed linens to silky lingerie.
The most searched sex positions...
Follow our sex positions page for more
The relationship expert explained: ”Introduce varied textures through bedding, clothing and accessories.
”Silk sheets, velvet cushions or textured blindfolds and restraints can provide novel sensations.
”Incorporate temperature play with warmed or cooled objects to stimulate nerve endings.”
To ”play with cooling sensations across the entire body”, the sex guru’s top tip is storing lubricant in the fridge before a rendezvous.
When it comes to igniting your sense of smell, scented candles, essential oils and incense sticks are among her favourite suggestions – and couples should best opt for vanilla, jasmine, peppermint and sandalwood which are associated with heightened arousal.
Lastly, when it comes to incorporating taste into sex, the guru suggested incorporating flavoured lubes, edible body paints and aphrodisiac foods, which include oysters, chocolates and strawberries.
Two more of Dr O’Reilly’s sex tips of 2025 are different methods of oral sex.
The pro’s first method, called ”The Joystick”, involves the receiver using their hands on the back of the giver’s head to move them around ”like a joystick, directing the pace, rhythm, and intensity to align with their desires”.
To take intimacy to the next level, the doctor advised maintaining eye contact when possible and for both parties to use ”tantalising verbal affirmations”.
Different sounds or words, she explained, will allow the receiver to ”communicate enthusiasm”, while they can be used by the server to ”reinforce their willingness to give pleasure”.
Dr O’Reilly predicted the other type of oral sex that will be on trend for the next 12 months is something called ”irrumatio”.
She said that this is a variation where the receiver takes the lead, ”guiding the motion as their penis enters their partner’s mouth at their preferred pace and depth”.
As this puts the receiver in control, she warned as with any intimate activity, ”open communication about desires, limits, and boundaries is essential before engaging”.
In scenarios where such verbal safe words may not be feasible the pro advised establishing non-verbal signals – such as snapping fingers or raising a hand – in advance.
Her final top kink for the 2025 is a sexual technique called ”edging”, whereby you stimulate yourself or your partner to the point of climax but stopping just before reaching orgasm – which results in greater sexual pleasure.
Along with feeling ”localised intensity”, the sex guru said this technique gives a ”full-body wave of pleasure from prolonged stimulation”.
She added: ”In addition to intensified physical sensations, the emotional overwhelm of edging can take pleasure and connection to new heights.
”For couples, edging fosters communication, trust, and intimacy by encouraging mutual exploration and anticipation.
”It can also allow for extended states of arousal to amplify desire and deepening emotional vulnerability.”
