YOU’VE been with your partner for years and over time, naturally, the spark in the bedroom has dimmed down.
This is a common problem for many people around the world – and in fact, a staggering 20% of married couples are in sexless marriages, Xo Necole reported.
It may often feel like you stick to the same old tried-and-tested positions and the act feels like a rehearsal for the big ‘O’ – which may not even happen.
Reaching orgasm is, of course, not the main goal – pleasure is.
However, that doesn’t mean that climax is not an enjoyable way to release all the tension and stress, amongst the other benefits, such as reducing headaches, menstrual cramps and boosting your self-confidence.
Going through a dry spell with your second half is nothing to be embarrassed about, especially as so many couples around the globe are in the exact same position.
However, if you’re keen to add a little spice to your love life and want to end 2024 on a high, one self-proclaimed Orgasm Queen, Susan Bratton, has come to rescue with her top tips – and they’re sure to transform dull sex into passionate love-making like you’ve just met.
According to Susan, who is a renowned relationship and intimacy expert, foreplay is key – and although this may seem pretty self-explanatory, the bestselling author emphasised the importance of something called ‘The Pleasure Protocol’.
Chatting to Dragon’s Den Steven Bartlett, Susan explained the main components she swears by, starting with putting Foria Wellness Intimacy CBD Melts inside the vagina.
”The cocoa butter melts up inside there with CBD and botanicals,” the sex guru said about the item which will make your lower half smell like ”chocolate”.
”It melts almost immediately and it makes her vagina feel like velvety and luscious.”
Sharing her tricks to a hot nookie, Susan also advised to incorporate breast massages – which can lead to nipple orgasms.
While an orgasm typically results from stimulating the genitals, it can also happen through stimulating other areas of the body – when a person is able to have this sensation through nipple stimulation, it is known as a nipple orgasm.
Anecdotally, some people say that a nipple orgasm builds more slowly, then creates a sudden wave of sensation throughout the body.
”I used to really not like my breasts – and I’ve got great boobs. And I didn’t think I did because I’m a woman and we think there’s something wrong with us.
”Everybody in the world wants to get their hands on my boobs but I didn’t think they would look good – it’s ridiculous what we women do to ourselves.
”So, when I discovered nipple-gasms, I was like ‘Oh, have I been missing out’,” she told the 32-year-old entrepreneur.
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”I love having orgasms from my breasts being pleasured – it is so nice.”
According to the intimacy expert, you should hold your boobs up, whilst your partner dribbles a little oil and spreads it around your breasts, whilst playing with them.
”Maybe while you’re making out or what I like to is I like to have Tim [Susan’s partner] lean up against the back of the bed.
”Then I put a pillow on his belly and I lean back against him and he gives me breast pleasuring […] while I tell him about my day and we talk about things and we just connect with each other.”
Spilling the beans on how to take your sex life to next level, Susan also reminded to not forget about oral sex – and if you don’t like it, the guru reckoned that’s ”because you haven’t had good oral sex”.
”Oral sex is incredible, highly orgasmic, amazing all on its own.”
The expert, who is the CEO of The 20 and Personal Life Media and the author of 34 books including Relationship Magic, spoke about a popular position where both partners are stimulated at the same time – 69.
69’er is the most popular and searched-for sexual position with 1.8M yearly searches in the US alone, reported a study by Bedbible – but if that’s not your cup of tea because you ”can’t concentrate”, the guru shared a message.
”You don’t have to concentrate – you can sometimes be giving and sometimes be receiving. But being connected like that, think about the energy that you’re circulating and the pleasure that you;re creating.
”Practice makes perfect with sex.”
