DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife gave me the night of my life when she posed in some stunning underwear I bought for her.
She let me take intimate photos of her — including some nude shots — but I’m terrified our marriage is over since I posted them on the internet.
I am 38 and my wife is 36. We have been together for eight years and have a little boy aged five.
It’s stupid but I think I wanted to show off how gorgeous my wife is — and as I posted the pictures I was getting a thrill.
The images are so hot because not only does she look after herself, she is also so confident in front of the lens.
I keep looking at the pictures when I’m alone, and can’t believe I’m so lucky to have landed her.
But I really ought to know better because years ago we had a similar session and I showed some of the pictures to my mates.
She went crazy then and very nearly finished with me.
Somehow, I managed to talk her around and promised I’d never do anything like that again.
So I was already on my last chance.
She’s so angry this time, she won’t even look at me.
I’m terrified she’s planning to move out with our little boy. I really should have known better.
I have been looking at porn online since I was a teenager. I know I have a bit of a problem with it — but even though I have tried, I can’t let it go.
I am so ashamed. This will hurt my wife so much and I don’t understand why I need porn at all.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It is an offence to share intimate images or videos of someone, either on or offline, without their consent.
Your wife could easily report you to the police. You can find out more about this through revengepornhelpline.org.uk.
If you really want to repair the damage, start seeking help for your addiction, and let your wife know – to show your commitment.
You need to start putting your wife first, by considering her in all decisions.
Consent can be about agreeing to go to her mum’s for dinner or letting her choose what to watch on TV. Ensure her wishes are central to everything.
You can find support to change through thelaurelcentre.co.uk and you should read my support pack Is Porn Ruining Your Life?
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