Every week, the Cut posts a new sex diary — anonymous accounts from city dwellers about a week in their sex lives. Below, the nine that resonated with readers most, from a 43-year-old divorced dad who’s not prepared for how wild his younger date is, to a Brooklyn mom going out with a woman for the first time, to a woman having a threesome with a married couple.
The Advertising Exec Who Schedules Sex With Her Husband
9 p.m. We share the bedtime duties, and then my husband and I meet in our bedroom. It’s Monday. We always fuck on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays. It’s our routine. Some people think it sounds unromantic to schedule sex, but it works for us. We stopped having sex a few years ago when parenting was depleting us both. We would go months without it. My husband was losing his mind. He was angry and twitchy, and it was all because we had just stopped fucking. A friend suggested we plan out sex and we both flinched at the concept, but, about a year ago, we tried it, and it really worked! Read the story…
The Man Who’s Intimidated by the Women He’s Meeting on the Apps
5 p.m. I get a message from Victoria on Hinge. She asks me if I’m interested in casual sex and if I have a big dick. I’m only 25, and I feel intimidated by how sexually open and aggressive everyone is. I’m honestly afraid of her, so I’m not writing back. Read the story…
The Single Mom Overwhelmed by Her Party-Girl Date
9 p.m. I tell her that I need to get home to the kids. She’s headed to a party for some buzzy new artist. As we wait for our Ubers, she says, “Come here” and gives me a deep kiss. It’s an unbelievable moment. Like it’s crazy-sexy. Then the cars come and we say good-bye. Read the story…
The Grad Student With a ‘Praise Kink’
4:30 a.m. Back at my place we both immediately start undressing. He notices the bruises on my ass and kisses them. He tells me I’m beautiful, which I love. I have a praise kink — I love compliments. The first time Ryan and I hooked up, while we were fucking, he described in detail what he had noticed about me when we first met — how much he loved my smile, my body, my hair. It really turned me on. Read the story…
The Lawyer Who Takes His Wife to a Sex Party
12:45 a.m. Kai and I have never been shy in a play space. My pants are down and she’s giving me head. We’ve got a few spectators from afar. Wow, this feels good. Read the story…
The Art-Museum Worker Sleeping With a Married Couple
9 p.m. A lot of knee touching eventually turns to some kissing and we move to their bedroom. When we stand, Selena gently takes my jaw and turns my face toward her husband so he can kiss me. In the bedroom, we all make out for a while. Then I go down on Selena. Eventually, Ben starts to fuck me from behind. He spanks me a little, which I enjoy. Read the story…
The Divorced Dad Whose Date is a Little Too Wild in Bed
10 p.m. We go to my place because it happens to be about three blocks closer. We open the door to my apartment and fortunately feel drunk enough to start going at it. She’s an animal! She starts talking dirty right away. She wants to sit on my face. She wants me to bite her nipples. I’m actually struggling to keep up with her demands, but I can’t complain. Read the story…
The Nurse Whose Husband Wants Sex Every Night
10 a.m. Husband comes back with some nice things from the bakery. We start to kiss and fool around. We go to our bedroom, and he goes down on me. He’s very good at it, but I tend to come from penetration, so I always pull him up and tell him to fuck me. Today we both come, which is nice. Read the story…
The Woman Getting Off in the Steam Room at the Gym
11 a.m. Well, that was interesting. We left therapy without even touching on our biggest issue: We have not had sex in a year. My husband talked about fucking politics the entire time and why it’s so important to him that Kamala wins. Wow. Read the story…
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