A MUM has revealed how she cheated on her husband at the Christmas party and now doesn’t know how to stop.
And despite feeling the guilt, the mum, who shares one child with her husband, doesn’t seem to be able to prevent herself from doing it again.
The woman, who has decided to remain anonymous, took to online forum Mumsnet to explain her dilemma.
She titled it: “Why am I cheating?”
And in a lengthy post, the mum wrote: “Help!! I’m a bad person, I know.
“I’m married with one child. Someone in work with me is married with three kids.
“We’ve worked together for eight years and travelled the world extensively, most of the time just us two – and sometimes [with] some more senior people or the team below us.
“There has never been anything between us, for eight years.
“We get along, we’ve met each other’s families. Nothing more.
“Respective partners say we are work wives and husband as we are close but just as friends.
“Then at the Christmas party there was some flirting from him, no idea where it came from.
“I (embarrassingly) enjoyed it and flirted back. We danced. Nothing else.
“Next work night out for our end-of-year results, he asked for a kiss at the end of the night. I give him a teeny peck.
“Then the last work trip we kissed several times one night and got a bit carried away and done a bit more. We didn’t have sex.
“I’m so confused, for two reasons.
“One, I’m happy. I have thought about this so much and I truly believe I am happy in my marriage. I love my husband, although all of this might suggest otherwise. I have never cheated before.
“And two, I don’t even fancy this guy from work! I don’t look at him and think he’s attractive. I definitely am not falling for him!
“So why am I doing it?!?! Help!!”
The mum believes that she may be getting a “thrill of the chase“.
She continues: “I’m ashamed to say the flirting excited me. The passionate kissing. Whilst me and my husband have a good sex life, we’ve been together 15 years.
“We’re so familiar (which is amazing) and there is obviously no honeymoon phase! I think this is why I have allowed this to happen?
I think you should stop being stupid. You don’t need to unpick it.
Response on Mumsnet
“I am getting carried away with the excitement and lust? I loved the attention. I love seeing another man on, after all this time.
“And the passion which I just don’t think you have after all these years. I am still passionate with my husband and we have great sex, so passion might not be the right word.
“Hopefully some of you know what I am referring to though.
“I know I’m a bad person. Feel free to share how awful I am but trust me, I know.
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“The remorse I feel… I go to tell my husband every night and then I sleep on it, thinking tomorrow will be better. He will 100 per cent leave me.
“I then go into work and see this guy and I find myself checking when the next work trip is.
“I go home to my husband, we have a lovely evening, the guilt and remorse kicks in.
“I promise myself I can’t look forward to other trips and have actually applied for some other jobs.
“Then I debate telling him, don’t. Go to sleep. Go into work the next day and the whole thing repeats itself again. What am I doing?
“Any counsellors that can unpick this and tell me what the f**k is wrong with me?!”
Many people rushed to the comments section to share their thoughts.
One wrote: “I think you should stop being stupid. You don’t need to unpick it.
“You need to either give yourself a slap and behave or end your marriage. It really is that simple.”
Another added: “I think you’ve already worked out what’s going on. In your shoes, I’d be looking for another job. Otherwise this is going to explode in the nastiest way.”
A third said: “If you genuinely want your marriage to continue you really need to step up your job hunting. I personally wouldn’t tell him, but I’d stop, as you’re playing with fire.
“Especially when you don’t even fancy this guy.”
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