DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE had more than a dozen one-night stands since my girlfriend told me she was pregnant.
Now one of these women has contacted me telling me she’s pregnant too.
I’m a 31 year-old-guy with an addictive personality. I’ve gone through spells of taking drugs, smoking and drinking to excess.
Everything I do, I go all-in 100 per cent. This includes channelling my energy into pulling women.
My girlfriend is 27. When she said she was pregnant, we were both over the moon.
We’re planning on moving in together in the New Year. The
baby is due in April.
I went out with my mates to celebrate but got off with a women in the pub and ended up kissing her.
Since then, my obsession with women has returned with a vengeance.
Am I simply making up time before I settle down to life
with my girlfriend and become a dad?
One of the women I chased is a friend’s niece. She’s French
and 23 and was over here to improve her English.
She was staying with my friend but he had a holiday
booked with his wife so I offered to take his niece out one evening.
I told my girlfriend I was playing five-a-side football.
We had a great night, ending up in her bed. She’s the one saying she’s pregnant too.
I began to tot up the women I’d slept with over the last few months and I was into double figures.
I can’t bring myself to work out what the real total is. And don’t even know if I could remember them all.
In front of my mates I laugh it off, but deep down I’d really like to stop behaving so badly.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It’s a mess. Your behaviour means you may lose your girlfriend and your family life and you’ll potentially have to pay maintenance for two children.
Your girlfriend wants this child with you. The student has her decision to make but she must decide what is right for her.
If she has the baby, you’re going to have to confess to your girlfriend while you’ve still got quiet time together before your first baby arrives.
You’ll have to beg your girlfriend’s forgiveness – and let’s hope she’s
reluctant to break up with you now.
Vow that the playing away from home will stop and you will get help to curb your sex addiction.
My support pack called Can’t Be Faithful will help and you can find
further advice and support through pivotalrecovery.org.
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