DEAR DEIDRE: THE man I’ve fallen for and messaged several times a day has cut me off since his wife has learned about our friendship.
The lack of contact is tearing me apart.
I’m 28 and this guy is 32. He joined our company almost a year ago and when we were introduced there was a definite spark between us.
He is very friendly, good looking and so easy to talk to.
We discovered that we were both into the same music, support the same football team and enjoy similar films.
It wasn’t long before we exchanged phone numbers and started texting every day.
I had just split up with my boyfriend and this guy was a shoulder to cry on.
He also confided in me that although he was married, he wasn’t getting on well with his wife.
She seems to be very suspicious and possessive of him from what he’d told me.
This guy also has a three-year-old son and now his wife has discovered our texts.
He says he can’t lose his son, even though he has admitted he is also in love with me.
It is torture seeing him at work. What can I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: You have no choice but to walk away before the damage escalates.
He’s not free to be with you and it sounds like he has no intention of leaving his wife either.
You have fallen for him but he’s not going to commit to you.
Give yourself time to readjust to being single after the break-up with your boyfriend and then make a determined effort to move on.
You deserve better than what your colleague has to offer, but you may need help to realise it.
Concentrate on improving your social life.
There are plenty of great guys who are unattached.
Find one who is worthy of your love and who wants the same as you.
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