A MAN has revealed that he is cheating on his girlfriend – with her mother.
The 25-year-old man explained that his 22-year-old partner’s mum came onto him after a drunken Christmas celebration.
He confessed that he was “weak” and “gave in pretty easily”, but now feels incredibly guilty about his infidelity.
Keen to share his story and seek advice, the man took to social media to share all.
Posting on Reddit, on the r/relationship_advice thread, the man wrote under the username @discardthis4849 and titled his post ‘I have been sleeping with my girlfriend’s mum and I don’t know how to end it.’
He explained that after a bit too much alcohol, things got “out of hand” between him and his partner’s 43-year-old mother.
He admitted: “Me and my girlfriend spent 2018 Christmas holidays at her parents house. We all had a lot of wine one night and everyone got pretty smashed.
“Everyone eventually headed to bed except for me and my girlfriend’s mum and things ended up getting out of hand.
“I don’t want to go into details but we ended up being very handsy on their living room couch.
“Fast forward a couple months and her mum came to visit for the weekend and the moment my girlfriend left, she was all over me.
“I feel like s**t but I’m a weak man and gave in pretty easily.”
But not only did he sleep with his girlfriend’s mother, but he did it more than once too.
He added: “This happened only twice since Christmas and the guilt has become overwhelming.
“I pulled her aside and tried telling her this needed to stop but she was just flirty and dismissive about the whole thing and started kissing me.
“My girlfriend is probably one of the sweetest people you can meet. She always takes good care of me and tries really hard.
“I know if I told her the truth she would be devastated and I don’t want to rip her family apart either. I’m not sure how I should approach this.
I realise I dug myself into a hole I can’t get out of
Reddit poster
“Me and my girlfriend have never really fought besides minor bickering, so I can’t even come up with a good excuse to end our relationship but I know this can’t continue and her mum doesn’t want to stop.”
Unsure on what to do, he questioned: “Should I just tell my girlfriend the truth of what has been happening or should I just bail and let the cards fall where they may?
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
“I realise I dug myself into a hole I can’t get out of. I don’t want to break up with her.
“She makes me really happy but I don’t see another choice.”
Reddit users were left open-mouthed by the man’s confession and many flocked to the comments to share their thoughts on the situation.
One person said: “You’re [a] sleazebag and so is her mother. She deserves better than you and her mother. Simple as that.”
By keeping it from her, you’re already causing more damage
Reddit user
Another added: “Stupid and gross.
“Break up with your girlfriend and tell her about your mother’s affair with you.”
Whilst a third commented: “By keeping it from her, you’re already causing more damage…she will eventually find out, nothing stays a secret…
“However, if you’re up front with her, she will respect that rather than her finding out some other way.”
Following the flood of horrified comments from social media users, the anonymous man later confessed: “I’ve decided not to tell my girlfriend and let it play out naturally.
“I’ll stop seeing her mum and just avoid her at all costs and whatever happens happens. There’s no point hurting her.”
