A MAN has revealed that he is having an affair with his own father’s girlfriend, despite the fact that his besotted dad is set to propose.
The dad has been in a relationship with the 29 year-old-woman for two years, after the pair met online, but recently, the woman has been showing an interest in the son instead.
Whenever the dad is not around, the son said that the girlfriend, who is far closer to him in age, flirts with him, and they have now begun a secret affair.
He explained that his mum died when he was a kid, and his father, who brought him and his two siblings up alone, never entered another serious relationship.
However, now that the kids are all grown up and out of the house, the dad has found love again.
The son told Metro’s Agony Aunt: “I was pleased for dad, though she is nearer my age (22) than his, so I did think she was a bit young for him.
“Whatever, they seemed happy so I didn’t say anything. They’ve now been together for two years and my dad is besotted.
“The trouble is that recently, she’s been flirting with me whenever Dad isn’t around, and at a family party in August, we ended up outside in a passionate clinch.
“Things got quite steamy that night and it wasn’t long before we started an affair.”
The son said that his dad often works away, so it is easy for the son and the woman to meet up in secret.
He said that he knows it’s wrong, but has become caught up in the “thrill” of the situation.
However, he added: “Now my dad has told us kids that he wants to marry her, and asked us what we all think.
“I was gobsmacked and told her straight away that our relationship had to end, but she got really upset and threatened to tell my father about us.
“I feel like whatever I do, this is all going to end in disaster.”
The agony aunt’s response was that the man has no choice but to reveal the truth to his father.
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
She said: “It’s clear she doesn’t really love him and to blackmail you in this way is additional proof that she’ s a nasty piece of work.
“What does she hope to gain?”
The agony aunt added that the son had betrayed his father, but hopefully, he can eventually be forgiven.
