A GIRLFRIEND has revealed her concern for not being able to bring her boyfriend around her family due to her “maneater” of an aunt.
The woman, who has decided to remain anonymous, is now desperately seeking advice from other mums – or those who have found themselves in similar situations.
The 28-year-old’s life is now getting affected by it “daily” after previous experiences with her family.
Taking the online forum Mumsnet, she revealed her “anxiety” in her relationship “because of her maneater aunt.”
In a lengthy post, she wrote: “I have a wonderful boyfriend, for context he is white and I am Indian.
“My parents aren’t strict and even if they were, I would still go with him. I get on great with my parents, life is good.
“My dad’s side know I’m in a relationship.
“Really don’t like anyone knowing my relationship status but I’m 28 now and it’s a bit obvious if I say I’ve never had a boyfriend so I say yes when asked only.
“I just try to answer with one word and keep it minimal, if someone pushes with the whole ‘Ooo how’s it going, what’s he like,’ (which I understand is normal social talk but it’s not my cup of tea), I politely explain I am private and don’t discuss my relationship.
“No one needs to know anything, I despise people who interfere, like seriously how is my choice of person I’m having s** with any of your business? Crude but true.”
The woman explained that she band her mum from telling her side of the family as her sister is “known to steal husbands.”
The Mumsnet user continues: “She’s done it at least 3 times, her current one is a man she’s stolen who pays her rent, she wears orange lippie daily, leopard print, red thongs that poke out of her trousers, etc.
“We all have a suspicion she has slept with her own sister’s husband (not my mum, another sister). They are now estranged.
“This woman has also tried to poke her nose into my brother’s marriage, as a result he and his wife have cut her off. She does it with everyone.
“She’s now found out I’m with someone and she keeps asking my mum and I questions, why is she with a white guy, that’s not appropriate, how much money is he on, what car does he have etc.
If she asks questions, just say you don’t want to discuss it
Mumsnet user
“I feel like I can’t enjoy myself with my boyfriend anymore because I’m worried about this woman.
“My mum said I need professional help, why do I care about my aunt, what can she do etc.
“I’m a very calm person who keeps to myself and I’m a conflict avoidant but if I have to keep dealing with this nosiness I’m going to have to say look how many men you’ve been with, you’ve got no place questioning my private life. Then people like this get mad, when they started it!!! I don’t understand???
“There will be more people like this who have done bad stuff like stolen husbands and cheated but comment on others’ lives.”
She then asked for advice from other Mumsnets users by writing: “How do you guys deal with this hypocrisy and how do I get over it so I can enjoy my life with boyfriend?
“Mum says I have to be strong, girls don’t give a toss and defend their boyfriends and tell everyone to butt out, but I can’t get rid of the anxiety. Please help.
“P.S. I don’t even care that people cheat and steal husbands, I care when they do it and then dare to comment on others’ wrongdoings. HOW??? (in her eyes it’s me being with a white guy and that I’m keeping it to myself).”
The post received a lot of attention with many rushing to the comments section to share their thoughts.
You can’t steal a husband, they are not something you buy in a shop
Mumsnet user
One wrote: “It takes two to be in a relationship so I doubt your aunt is stealing husbands, the other party has to be interested too. I think you are focusing far too much on this woman.
“You are right in that it is not anyone’s else’s business who you are seeing.
“Just enjoy your boyfriend and forget about your aunt and what she is saying. You are far too fixated on this.”
Another added: “I agree you are getting very worried about nothing. She hasn’t stolen any husbands. No husband can be ‘stolen’.
“Orange lippy, leopard print and red thongs are certainly minority tastes in fashion, but not inherently immoral!
“If she asks questions, just say you don’t want to discuss it, but please be nice to her, it sounds like she is treated quite badly.
“All those things being said about her behind her back – that says more about the family than her, and I suspect such a family could turn on someone else at some point.”
A third simply added: “You can’t steal a husband, they are not something you buy in a shop.”
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