My miscarriage robbed me of my baby first and then my relationship

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I had a miscarriage, not only did I lose my baby, but I lost the man I fell in love with too.

I’m 32, my boyfriend is 35, and we’ve been together for six years.

After being diagnosed with endometriosis in my early 20s, I knew having children was going to be hard, if not impossible. So when I fell pregnant with our first child, we were over the moon.

However, four months in, I tragically lost the baby, and things between us shifted.

Suddenly the caring and loving boyfriend I knew was distant and cold. He started doing more and more overtime at work, and the intimacy in our relationship completely died.

I tried everything to reconnect with him, from trying to arrange date nights to suggesting couples counselling, but he was never interested.

Now I’ve been sent photos of him snuggling up to another woman in the pub, and it’s undeniable that he’s cheating.

I’m heartbroken. After everything, I can’t believe he would do this to me.

DEIDRE SAYS: The way your boyfriend has been acting is immature and selfish. While he’s dealing with his own grief, he’s failing to support you in yours.

You need to find a moment to have a serious conversation with him. Tell him that you deserve a partner who will be there for you in times like this and explain that something needs to change.

If he refuses or deflects, you may need to consider making the break.

I’m sending you my support pack on miscarriage to help you find some emotional support.