My husband has gone off the rails since I miscarried our baby
DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE losing our baby, my husband has gone completely off the rails.
He used to be so kind and caring, but these days I don’t recognise him.
I’m 32, he’s 35, and we’ve been together for six years.
After years of trying and failing to conceive naturally, we finally fell pregnant last year after my second round of IVF.
We were over the moon, but everything came crashing down when I miscarried three months in.
From that moment on, my husband fell into a deep depression and has been drinking himself through it ever since.
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I’ve tried everything I can to support him, but nothing is working.
Now he spends almost every night down the pub, and I regularly pick him up because he’s got himself in such a state.
He’s started fights with locals and has even kissed a few random women, but always wakes up the next day with no memory.
I’m at a loss for what to do and it’s really getting me down.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I can only imagine how hard it must be losing a child after such a long struggle with fertility.
It’s clear your husband is using alcohol as a way to cope and neglecting you and your relationship in the process.
It’s time for some hard talking. Find a moment when you are both quiet and alone and explain the impact his drinking is having on you and tell him that something needs to change.
I’m sending you my support pack Dealing With A Problem Drinker to help.