My ex told me he didn’t want a relationship then debuted his new girlfriend

DEAR DEIDRE: It hurts so much that I wasn’t good enough for a proper relationship.

Within weeks of us splitting up, a guy who I fell hard for wanted to tell the world about his new girlfriend – someone he’s only just started seeing.

I’m 25, he’s 27 and this other woman looks the same age as me.

Last year, we were together for two months and we went on several dates. He even said he wanted to be with me, but then shortly after, decided he needed space.

At first he said he needed to work long hours because the bar where he worked had flooded, then he said his mum was ill and he needed to help her. When I texted him to see how he was, he ignored me.

I feel so rejected – it’s not fair. How can he tell me he wasn’t ready for a relationship, and then get into one with his new girlfriend?

After contacting him a few times, he sent me a threatening message, telling me people would hurt me if I tried to contact him again. I’ve reported this to the police because I’m really scared.

He said he had also reported me for harassment, but now he has apparently dropped it. I haven’t heard anything from the police.

I’m upset he broke things off, but I’m also worried I’ve got myself in trouble with the law.

DEIDRE SAYS: This man gave you mixed messages and now has threatened you so it’s no wonder you are upset.

This rejection will have knocked your confidence, but trying to force a relationship won’t help.

You would be far better off taking care of yourself and cutting contact to give yourself a chance to get over him.

If he makes any further threats, you should update the police.
You can find more help through the National Stalking Helpline (stalkinghelpline.org).

My support packs Finding The Right Partner For You and Raising Self Esteem will help you.