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After weeks of calls to replace President Joe Biden as the 2024 Democratic nominee, Biden officially dropped out of the race on Sunday.
Despite his desire to seek reelection, Biden stepped down after reports of memory struggles and some Democratic leaders withdrawing their support.
While Biden's career trajectory may not be relatable, the pain that can come with retiring is.
CNN commentator Van Jones likened Biden's announcement to taking away a grandfather's car keys. "You finally get the keys back," Jones said. "And then you just cry. Because this is somebody that you love."
As the youngest boomers approach retirement age, many might soon find themselves in Biden's shoes, Dr. Natasha P. Trujillo, a counseling and sports psychologist who specializes in grief around career transitions, told Business Insider.
"Biden spent his entire career and most of his life engaged in this work," Trujillo said. For people who feel forced to retire, it "can bring up a lot of more existential questions that they're not really thinking about with the hustle and bustle that comes along with their careers."
There are many reasons people put off retiring, Angela Williams, LCSW and career coach, told BI.
First and foremost, "there's a freedom in being able to hold a position of power, to be autonomous and do the work," she said. Giving that up "can lead to confusion, fear, and anxiety of what can come next" because of how ingrained a person's career might be with their identity, routine, and social interaction.
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Pride can also play a huge role in the resistance to stepping down, especially if it's related to physical abilities.
"You may doubt yourself more, or other people may doubt you more, which could be a new experience for a lot of people," Trujillo said. "It's emotionally loaded and can be really, really hard for them to come to terms with what they have to give up."
Trujillo said that retirement often involves a grieving process. Some might be "losing that sense of purpose or meaning in their life and are unsure how they might reinvent that," she said.
She said that one of the biggest issues that comes up around retirement is the fear of finding a new identity, and that some clients find it "scary" to pursue new hobbies or interests if they're not as good at them or don't find them as satisfying.
Others might not find anything outside of work to be worth their time, Williams said, noting that it becomes harder to accept retirement if you tie your value to work.
Having more free time (and little to fill it with) along with the feelings of grief around retirement can lead to depression, illness, and even earlier death, according to some research.
Establishing an identity outside your career can soften the blow of retirement.
"People who have well-rounded hobbies and interests have an easier time transitioning because they have a lot more sources to draw from," Williams said.
For example, Trujillo said that some retired pro athletes transition into philanthropic work to give their life new meaning. Similarly, she said, people who retire should look for a hobby or volunteer work that aligns with their values.
Much of that comes from having a growth mindset, Williams said. People with a growth mindset "can always find that there was a lesson or something helpful to be learned from," she said, while those with fixed ones tend to be "very closed off to new opportunities."
To help her clients figure out their next steps after big life events like retirement, Trujillo said she emphasizes looking at gains and losses. While retirement can come with a lot of loss, benefits might include a less rigid schedule, more opportunities to travel, or more time to spend with family and friends.
Even people with plenty of social connections and hobbies outside work may still find retirement jarring. Williams recommended finding a therapist who specializes in retirement and leaning on loved ones to make the change less difficult.
It's important to take the feelings around retirement seriously, no matter what age you are, Trujillo said.
"When people can recognize that and understand that this is a major transition, I think that's hugely effective."
