My OnlyFans addiction is bleeding me dry

DEAR DEIDRE: BEING on OnlyFans is stopping me from sleeping and bleeding me dry financially – but I don’t want to leave.

I feel close to a woman there and feel guilty if I don’t talk to her whenever she asks. Am I being manipulated?

I’m a 32-year-old single guy. I joined OnlyFans a few weeks ago.

I really enjoyed it at first. Talking to women there was exciting and made me feel less lonely. 

One particular woman took a shine to me and told me I was special.
It felt like I’d made a real friend.

But now I find myself talking to her all night – and it’s costing me a fortune. 

I feel rude if I say I have to go, and she tells me she doesn’t want me to leave.

If she messages and I don’t reply, she says, ‘Don’t you want to be with me?’, and guilt trips me into talking.

Money is tight, and I can’t afford this. I’m also exhausted.

What should I do?

Deidre says:

You have no reason to feel rude or guilty.

I’m sorry to say, but this woman is manipulating you for money. It’s not you she likes, but your cash.

It’s really important that you try to come off OnlyFans, or you will get yourself into bad debt.

Delete your account and don’t feel bad. My support pack Understanding Guilt might help.

If you’re feeling lonely, read my support pack on Widening Your Social Scene, for tips on making real friendships.