A WOMAN has been warned people will think she’s a bad mother-in-law after sharing her outfit for her son’s wedding.
Preparing for her son’s nuptials, she had pretty much decided on an ensemble for the big day.
But she was unsure if the purple fit and flare dress was “too light” for the occasion.
“Is this too light for mother of the groom?” she asked in the Wedding Attire thread on Reddit.
The sleeveless dress featured a boat neckline, as well as a belt to cinch in the waist and a midi length, and was in a shade described on the website as “dried blossom”.
The dress, from Lafayette 148, isn’t cheap either, and comes in at a staggering £590 – reduced from £985.
“Feminine and understated, this bateau neck midi dress is beautifully tailored from naturally light and airy, pure linen,” they write of the dress on the Lafayette 148 website.
“The cap sleeve design is defined by architectural darting, a contouring cut and waist-defining sash, lending an impeccable fit to the flared silhouette.”
And people in the comments section were quick to try and dissuade the woman from wearing the outfit.
“Too light,” one insisted.
“You’re going to be in a lot of photos and it’s going to look white.
“And people are going to roll their eyes about what a bad mother-in-law you must be.”
“I do think it’s awfully light,” another agreed.
As a third said: “To be fair, whenever folks ask is this too white, I basically always say yes.
“Because if it was white enough for you to think you needed to ask, then just don’t.
“However, this is honestly, objectively, inarguably too white.
“Especially for mother of the groom… they’ll think you are trying to steal some of her thunder.”
JOSIE Griffiths, Deputy Editor at Fabulous, who is tying the knot this year, has shared her thoughts on wearing white to a wedding...
I tend to consider myself pretty low maintenance from a fashion and beauty point of view.
I can be out the door in 20 minutes in the morning, normally do my mascara on the bus or the Tube, and spend my work from home days in my gym gear.
But when it comes to my wedding this summer, that’s all gone out the window.
Professional hair and makeup is booked for 8am, I’ve gone all out on my wedding dress, got designer shoes and even bought a second dress for the evening do.
So when I think about someone wearing a white gown to my big day, yeah I think I’d be pretty mad.
The idea behind not wearing a white dress goes back to not wanting to ‘upstage the bride’.
Which, to be fair, is unlikely. Not only has she possibly spent a small fortune on her look for the day, she’s also one of the only two people present who knows (and hopefully likes) all the guests.
So the main risk you’re taking is just making yourself look quite silly – and getting gossiped about by total strangers.
A wedding guest I met in October 2022 still sticks out in my mind. I still don’t know what was worse – the fact she was so drunk she was crashing into people on the dance floor, or her decision to wear a white dress, which was arguably marginally improved by the glass of red wine she’d drunkenly tipped down herself.
I know weddings are expensive for everyone and it’s fair enough if you don’t want to buy a whole new outfit – I’m all for re-using what’s already in your wardrobe.
Just avoid the white dress for the bride’s sake – and your own.
“It’s too light and will photograph white. Not even an option!” someone else said.
“Please ask the bride,” another urged.
“Personally I feel it’s too light.”
“Honestly, I’d consider just checking with the bride,” someone else agreed.
“My personal opinion, I think it’s too light for a mother of the groom dress.”
“Yes, for sure it’s too light,” another said.
