DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE met an amazing woman but am struggling in the bedroom.
She’s the first since a very acrimonious divorce.
I am a 42-year-old man. My wife had an affair with a colleague and left me for him. She went on to divorce me to be with this guy.
When we were arguing and breaking up, she taunted me about how good a lover this man was.
After three years, I am finally starting to move on.
But when it comes to sex I am struggling to maintain an erection. My girlfriend is 38.
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She thinks I haven’t got over my wife and that’s why I can’t perform in bed.
I really like her and I am terrified I’m going to lose her.
She said that I can’t get an erection because I don’t fancy her. It couldn’t be further from the truth. She is gorgeous.
I still get morning erections. It’s only when we try to be intimate that I can’t perform.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your girlfriend may be right – not that you don’t fancy her, but that you may not be over your ex.
Your wife humiliated you with her comments about the other man’s sexual performance, so there could be some emotional damage that you have pushed away.
You are getting morning erections, which further suggests it is a psychological issue.
My support pack Solving Erection Problems explains self-help.
