Does my escort girlfriend really think I’m special?
DEAR DEIDRE: I’ve fallen for an escort but think she’s taking me for a fool.
She says I’m special and we’ve been seeing each other for several years, but I think she’s lying about not seeing other men.
I’m 52 and have given up on finding a woman through the conventional ways.
I never met anyone at college or work, get rejected in bars and clubs, and internet dating has been a disaster.
But I have normal needs so decided to start seeing escorts instead.
A few years ago, I met an escort who ticked all my boxes. It was love at first sight.
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She’s 30, Eastern European and gorgeous. She is also funny and interesting to talk to, and she listens to me in a way no other woman has.
I stopped seeing any other escorts after our first, magical night together. We now meet every week.
She’s made me feel it’s more than just a transaction.
She calls me a pet name and even talks about me coming back home to her country with her one day.
I gave her an expensive bracelet, which she always wears.
She gave me her personal number, too, so we can text each other — something she tells me she has never done for any other client.
But she doesn’t always message me back and I still have to book her through her personal handler.
When I asked if she was seeing other men, she said no, I was special.
But I asked if we could meet outside of our arrangement, and she made excuses.
Am I being stupid? Can this relationship go anywhere?
DEIDRE SAYS: Being nice to you, listening to you and making you feel special is part of this woman’s job.
You’re a regular client and treat her well, so I’m sure she does like you.
But I’m sorry to say, as you no doubt know deep down, this is never going to be more than a business transaction.
You are paying for her time.
You don’t really know her and, while you feel you get on, this isn’t an equal relationship.
The fact you have to book her through her handler, or pimp, shows she’s being controlled.
It’s clear that you are craving companionship, not just sex. So don’t give up looking for this.
Widening your social circle will give you the best chance of finding a woman who is right for you.
Aim for friendship first.
My support pack Finding The Love Of Your Life should help.