My ex is bulldozing our break up through

DEAR DEIDRE: I am at rock bottom after my girlfriend told me she wants to break up.

It was so sudden. She’s full steam ahead with the split. It feels like there is no room for working things through in her mind.

She’s buying me out of the house, ignores my texts and any move I make to rekindle.

Now she is cold and emotionless towards me. I’ve broken down in front of her but she just seems to be moving forward without a care in the world.

I am 33 and she is 46. We’ve been together for seven years after meeting at the gym.

I knew she was older but she doesn’t look her age and is young at heart. We were a fantastic couple and enjoyed a great sex life.

There were a few rocky patches when her sister died of cancer two years ago and our IVF treatment came to an end with failed results a year later.

We were both miserable and stopped communicating, drifting apart.

Occasionally we argued and didn’t go out together or make time for one another, living separate lives with no intimacy whatsoever.

All my mates tell me to move on but I know there must be a deeper meaning to it all.

DEIDRE SAYS: This is so sad. The relationship has faced major problems, including bereavement and fertility issues.

She may have felt that the IVF failure denied you the chance of being a father, something she can’t live with. Her way of dealing with the break- up avoids any conflict.

But if she does not want to slow down or reconsider, I’m afraid the best thing for you is to accept it is over. You are young with your life ahead of you.

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