Finding a bond with my boyfriend’s son has made our relationship stronger
DEAR DEIDRE: I KNEW from our first date that my new boyfriend had a little boy from his previous marriage.
But I didn’t expect their relationship to affect me so much.
I’m 28, he’s 32 and the boy is three.
After he introduced us, I loved seeing my boyfriend in dad mode.
But then his son asked me to leave the room so he could have a bedtime story, and I suddenly felt bereft.
I wished I was a mum but I also knew I couldn’t cope with a young child.
You told me I needed to build my confidence and take things more slowly.
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I might change my mind about being a mum in time, as my relationship developed.
Thank you.
I found your advice so sympathetic and comforting.
It made me stop panicking and instead I got to know my boyfriend and his son more.
Now I have a wonderful bond with the little boy and feel less scared about having my own child one day.
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DEIDRE SAYS: At times when the future seems daunting, focusing on the present is often the best solution.