I’m having secret sex with my stepbrother — I worry our parents will be livid
DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my family find out who I have been having sex with, they are going to hit the roof.
My boyfriend is my stepbrother. I have kept it a secret for as long as possible but now Mum and Dad are really curious and suspicious about my mystery man.
I feel like the time has arrived to come clean that I’m in a serious relationship with him.
Nobody has a clue that we are an item — and we got together two years ago.
We were at home watching a film when our parents had already headed up to bed.
I felt him snuggling closer and closer into me, and within minutes we were entwined on the sofa.
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Since then we’ve snuck into each other’s bedrooms and sneaked out again before morning.
My parents split up five years ago and Mum met my stepdad a year later.
As soon as I met my stepbrother, I fancied him. He is quiet, but bright, and knows his own mind.
Unlike most men I know, he doesn’t feel the need to constantly show off loudly.
I’m 20, he’s 22 and we’ve always got on well, although he moved out after a year to go travelling.
He’s at university now but I’m still at home and attending my local college.
I visit him most weekends and he comes home to see me as often as he can.
It’s so difficult keeping our relationship under wraps. We struggle to resist each other in front of family.
It made sense to keep everything a secret to begin with but now we’re serious, I want to tell Mum, Dad, and my stepdad.
I know that they won’t be very impressed, but surely there isn’t a law against dating your stepbrother.
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DEIDRE SAYS: As you are not blood relations, there is nothing illegal about dating your stepbrother.
Before you talk to your parents, though, make sure you and he are aligned in wanting to go public.
I won’t be surprised if your parents do have some inkling of what is going on between you.
But if they genuinely have no idea, then your news will change the dynamics in your home.
This news could come as a big shock to your family, so do give them time and the chance to get used to this development and to think through the repercussions.