I fear my girlfriend’s mates will pressure her into taking drugs on New Year’s rave
DEAR DEIDRE: MY girlfriend’s mates are bad news and I’m worried about her going to a rave with them on New Year’s Eve.
She’s known them since school and they’re OK when they’re sober or not off their heads on drugs.
They were all in the same school year.
My girlfriend is 26 now and we have a three-year-old and a one-year-old.
It would have been difficult for us both to go out on New Year’s Eve anyway so I agreed that she could go out with friends and I’d babysit, but now I’ve found out that it’s a rave.
I know what her mates are like and they’ll be up to all sorts.
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My girlfriend isn’t into taking drugs but I’m scared they’ll persuade her to take something or they’ll spike her drink.
I’m 28 and I work hard for my family. I’ve never even smoked a joint. Doing drugs is way out of my comfort zone.
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DEIDRE SAYS: She’s known her friends for years and never taken drugs before so she can stand up for herself.
As they’re mates, it isn’t likely they’d spike her drink.
She’s a mum so her responsibilities are different now.
You’re understandably concerned, but from what you have written you may be overthinking things.
Express your concerns and she may reassure you.
If you have family or friends who are babysitting too, suggest that you get together to share an early evening with the kids.
This will help you worry less.