GAYNOR Lord’s daughter has shared a message of hope that “to feel joy we must feel sorrow”.
It comes after the mum-of-three’s body was pulled from the River Wensum on Friday, a week after she disappeared on the streets of Norwich.
Her daughter Charlotte shared an Instagram video from fitness influencer Aidan Loughnane on Wednesday.
He said the message “everything will be okay” is a lie, but that “there is hope” because “you can be okay”.
“You can be okay means to accept uncertainty,” he added. “To accept we must all go through the depths of despair and suffering that we all must experience, the greatest loss imaginable to us.
“Regardless, showing strength and accepting that it is a necessary evil. It is a necessary way of life teaching us the most important and valuable lessons.
“To feel joy we must feel sorrow, to be hopeful we must feel despair, and to laugh we must cry.”
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Gaynor, 55, left work early at 2.45pm on December 8 before CCTV showed her rushing through the streets of Norwich.
Her belongings were found in Wensum Park, about 1.5 miles from her workplace at Jarrolds department store, while her coat was also discovered in the river that runs through the park.
Cops said her clothing, mobile phone, glasses and jewellery, including two rings, were discovered at various places within the park.
Police yesterday tragically confirmed a body pulled from the river on Friday is Gaynor, following formal identification.
Gaynor’s husband “doesn’t understand at all what happened” to her, friends said.
Underwater divers found her body on Friday morning after “extensive searches”.
Norfolk Constabulary said: “A Home Office post-mortem examination carried out on Saturday found no indications of any third-party involvement.
“The death is not being treated as suspicious.
“The Home Office Pathologist awaits the results of the toxicology before formally confirming cause of death.
“Early indications are consistent with drowning.”
Chief Superintendent Dave Buckley said: “The post-mortem examination has found no signs that any other parties were involved.
“Although our searches have concluded, officers are continuing to work to establish the full circumstances surrounding Gaynor’s disappearance.
“We will pursue all lines of enquiry to understand why she went missing.
“Our thoughts remain with Gaynor’s family at this incredibly difficult time.”
We’ve all been lied to all our lives but there is one monster of a lie we’ve all been fed, the ultimate deceit, life’s dirty little way of keeping us wishful, keeping us sitting still, rather than taking authority on our journey.
And that lie ‘everything is going to be ok’, I have quickly learned over the course of the last ten years, let me tell you, everything is not going to be okay.
But there is hope. And although everything is not going to be okay you can be – and that statement that is a massive difference.
You can be okay means to accept uncertainty. To accept we must all go through the depths of despair and suffering that we all must experience, the greatest loss imaginable to us.
Regardless, showing strength and accepting that it is a necessary evil. It is a necessary way of life teaching us the most important and valuable lessons.
To feel joy we must feel sorrow, to be hopeful we must feel despair, and to laugh we must cry.
You are not alone out there and although the ocean of life may seem vast and dark, look for the light to guide you, because brothers and sisters there is always a light. Though I walk through the shadow of death, I fear no evil for you are with me.
