DEAR DEIDRE: AS gorgeous as my girlfriend is, I’m not enjoying her recent sexual requests and it’s starting to put me off her.
She is 29 and I’m 30. Lately, she’s started to demand that I suck her toes for foreplay.
She is really good-looking and takes a lot of care over her appearance, especially her feet.
She goes for a pedicure nearly every month and wears open sandals at any opportunity, and even in the winter.
We’ve been together for one year.
Before this I would have described our sex life as perfect, we both have a strong libido and are adventurous.
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It started off with a simple request to massage her feet, which I didn’t mind at first, although I was a little taken aback when she started to get visibly turned on.
She still asks for the foot massage, but her request quickly moves on to toe-sucking.
Again, I didn’t mind trying it as a one-off but now she’s started to ask for a toe suck every time we have sex.
It’s got to the point where I’ve started to make excuses.
She’s a waitress so is on her feet all day and although she gives her feet a quick rinse – I still really don’t want to be going anywhere near them.
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DEIDRE SAYS: How can I talk to her about this without making her feel embarrassed?
When it comes to sexual pleasure, nothing is abnormal as long as you are both enjoying it and no one is getting hurt.
Many people have different erogenous zones when they are sexually stimulated so please don’t worry that your girlfriend is abnormal.
However, you do need to have an honest discussion with her and explain her toe fetish doesn’t do it for you.
If you can both compromise you will be able to get beyond this.
Could you indulge her occasionally if she gives her feet a proper wash and sometimes settles for a foot massage rather than toe suck?
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