I’m considering paying for a professional after years of no sex with wife
DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER years of unfulfilling sex with my wife, I’m considering paying a professional.
I’m 53, my wife is 48 and we’ve been married for 25 years.
We used to have such an amazing life in the bedroom, but over the past few years, my wife has lost all interest.
Every time we do sleep together she just lies there waiting for it to be over.
As a result, I’ve found my mind wandering to other women.
I know I’ll feel much better if I can have intimacy, so I’m starting to consider paying for it on a regular basis.
I’ve found a few websites online, but I’m apprehensive about making contact.
The last thing I want to do is betray my wife, but she’s giving me no choice.
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DEIDRE SAYS: While seeing a sex worker may relieve your frustration in the short term, in the long term, it will only lead to more problems.
Your wife is at an age where she may be menopausal, which in itself could be affecting her libido and desire for sex.
Speak to her and explain how you feel. Opening a discussion around sex may help.
If she is suffering with the menopause, encourage her to see her GP or a menopause clinic to help with her symptoms.
And read my support pack Different Sex Drives.