DEAR DEIDRE: According to my ex, I’m a complete monster – and she is doing everything she can to stop me seeing my daughter.
She is telling her legal team, the Government and local people where I live a pack of outrageous lies.
I have spent a lot of money going to court but I’ve run out of funds.
Nobody knows that I have been assaulted by her. I’ve never pressed charges as I am scared it will hinder my attempts to see my daughter.
I also worry that nobody will believe me.
I am 36 and my ex is 34. We didn’t have a great relationship. She would argue with me and lash out sometimes.
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Our daughter is eight and I miss her every day. I’m worried she will forget who I am.
There is no way a man in this country gets a fair hearing without racking up huge debts.
I am a good dad and terrified I am losing my daughter because the odds are stacked against me.
I have almost given up the fight even though I desperately want to be a dad to my daughter.
I don’t know what else to do. I am in touch with other men who are in the same position as me.
It helps but, why does it have to be this way?
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DEIDRE SAYS: You and your ex may have fallen out, but it is cruel to deny you contact with your daughter, and unfair to the child.
If she won’t speak to you, is there a friend or relative who can mediate between you? If not, suggest mediation so you two can iron out the issues.
Contact National Family Mediation (nfm.org.uk, 0300 4000 636). My support pack When Parents Don’t Get On can help.
Please also contact Families Need Fathers (fnf.org.uk, 0300 0300 363) who can give support and advice.
