My wife has put us £93k in debt and now my job is at risk – I’m terrified for our future
DEAR DEIDRE: WITHOUT me knowing, my wife has run up debts of £93,000.
I had no clue about the level of her spending.
I’m furious and feel she has wrecked our family’s future.
She doesn’t seem to realise the scale of the problem.
She has secret credit cards and has even borrowed money from her sister.
We are living a day-to-day existence, with no savings to fall back on, and my workplace has started to make redundancies.
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I’m 51 and my wife’s 48. Our children are 16 and 13. They are my world, but I am sick of being in debt.
It is beginning to scare me.
I am struggling to cope and starting to wonder if I’d be better off out of this life.
It’s frustrating having to live up to the alpha male image, hiding debt from family and friends with nothing to show for it, and nowhere to escape.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You are feeling trapped and panicking because your predicament seems insurmountable.
Your kids love you and need you.
Taking your own life would affect them for ever.
So please seek help.
There are many people who will want to support you.
Talk to Samaritans when you find yourself feeling low (samaritans.org, 116 123).
Finding out your wife is in such massive debt will have put a huge strain on your relationship.
She sounds like she is in denial.
My support pack Solving Debt Problems explains where to get help.