DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my daughter was dropping hints about regular childcare for my two granddaughters, I felt so guilty that I couldn’t help.
All I wanted was to support her but I was already stretching myself too thin.
I’m 60, my daughter is 33, her little girls are three and four years old.
I had always done everything I could to help her with the children. I’d do school runs when asked, babysit them if she needed me to, and even had them stay over on weekends when she went away.
I loved spending time with them but I knew a regular commitment was something I couldn’t manage.
Between caring for my elderly parents, working four days a week, and dealing with my own health issues, life was already becoming too much to manage.
You sent me your support pack Help For Carers and recommended I contact turn2us.org.uk, 0808 802 2000.
You also sent me your support pack Feeling Guilty and assured me that I had no reason to feel bad.
I have since spoken to my daughter and she has been so understanding.
Thank you for helping me.
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