I lent my girlfriend money for electric and she spent it on cannabis
DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE cried so much over my ex-girlfriend that I don’t think I’ll ever be happy again.
We met online but it was a long-distance relationship. I’m a man of 45 and I’m a coach driver. She’s 38 and a part-time hairdresser.
She likes smoking weed but I hate anything to do with drugs so she agreed to abstain while with me.
Last time I visited she asked me to lend her £20 to top up her electricity. I gave her the money and went out to get us some food.
When I got back, the electricity stopped, which I thought was odd, but when I looked at my girlfriend I could tell she’d been smoking cannabis and used my cash.
We argued and she threw me out.
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I’ve come back home and she has blocked me on everything. It was just a silly argument. How can I win her back?
DEIDRE SAYS: She is putting her drug habit before you, so unless she agrees that it’s a problem, she may never be the girlfriend you want her to be.
Long-term cannabis users can find they suffer with paranoia, depression or mood swings, among other things.
You can’t contact her at the moment, so unless she changes her mind, you’re stuck.
If she gets in touch, explain how you feel.
If she doesn’t, my support pack Moving On will help you.