I married my best friend but I still long for my ex
DEAR DEIDRE: I THOUGHT marrying my best friend was the right decision, but after four years I’m still thinking about my ex.
I’m 32, my wife is 29, and before we married we were friends for nine years.
While I have a lot of love for her, as time has gone by I’ve started to think that we should have kept it platonic.
We first started dating when I was in despair over my ex-girlfriend of five years.
She really showed up for me, and in a moment of loneliness, I think I misunderstood my feelings.
Even though we have a great life together, no matter how hard I try, there’s no sexual chemistry.
I’ve begun to feel something is missing in life, so a few months ago I decided to contact my ex and we’ve been talking constantly ever since.
I know the grass isn’t always greener on the other side, but ever since I have felt like she was the one that got away.
However, I’m really worried about hurting my wife. What should I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: You owe it to your wife to work on your relationship.
While you evidently have unresolved feelings for your ex, risking it all would not be a smart move, as there’s no guarantee that this relationship will succeed.
It would be worth talking to your wife about your issues and considering relationship counselling.
Contact Tavistock Relationships (020 7380 1960, tavistockrelationships.org).