My husband never ever asks for sex it is always me who initiates it
DEAR DEIDRE: YOU would think that after 20 years together, my husband could ask me for sex but he never does.
We are both 43 and we have two grown-up sons.
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I love sex. I still like to keep myself looking nice, with regular hairdos and I keep fit.
I’m a woman who wants to feel wanted and desired.
We have a great sex life but only because I keep things going.
I ask my husband two or three times a week for sex and he does oblige, but I can count on one hand the number of times he’s initiated it in the past year.
I’ve tried to talk to him about it but he says, “It doesn’t matter who asks for it, as long as we both enjoy it”.
Sometimes I’d love it if he came home, pushed me onto the bed and ravished me but instead, he goes upstairs to change into jogging bottoms and slippers like an old man.
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He says he’s not that assertive. I think it’s rubbish and he’s missing the point.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You both have to work at a relationship.
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