My ex-wife’s newborn has my surname – it’s so weird, people keep congratulating me but the baby is NOTHING to do with me
ONE man has shared the rather strange situation he’s found himself in after his ex-wife kept his surname after their divorce.
Posting to Reddit, the anonymous man says that four years after their divorce his ex-wife has given birth and now has a newborn baby.
The only problem is that the surname she has given her baby, is the one she has now – he ex-husbands. He says that this is so weird, and that people keep congratulating him when the baby has nothing to do with him.
He writes: “After the divorce she kept my surname. I didn’t necessarily like it because it felt like she was still attaching herself to my family but I could understand the practical reasons enough not to let it bother me.
“She recently gave birth to a baby and posted a picture of said child and revealed its name. A friend sent it to me commenting about the surname and asking if I knocked her up.
“Following that four more people directly contacted me either congratulating me or asking for confirmation whether it’s my child or not and my mother says she’s been catching whispers about it too at church.”
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While out shopping, the man says he bumped into her and her sister, congratulating her on her newborn, he asked her about the name.
His ex-wife then confirmed that yes, she has used his surname for the baby.
Responding to this he said: “I straight up said that it was f****** weird that she’s giving her newborn the surname of the man she’s divorced from who isn’t in any way linked to the kid and sounds almost obsessive.”
In the post he clarifies that yes the baby’s father is around, and he has no idea why the baby’s surname isn’t his.
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He also adds that he has quite a unique surname, especially in the area he lives, meaning that when people hear that name they’ll automatically think of his family, and assume that he’s the baby’s dad.
Commenters on the post are somewhat divided about the situation, one who agrees with the man argued: “That is so strange. Why wouldn’t she give her baby her maiden name and change her name back if she felt that she didn’t want the baby to have the fathers name.
“Now if she marries again and changes her name, her child has no connection to anyone in her family.”
While another wrote: “It IS weird, and it’s obviously created issues for you and your family since people are asking you about it and putting you in the awkward position of having to explain over and over again that it isn’t your kid.”
Others disagreed however, with one arguing: “Why do people think it’s so easy for a woman to change her last name back and forth whenever a man is in (or out) of the picture?
“She took your name when she married you; I’m guessing you would’ve thought it weird if she HADN’T taken your last name. Well it’s hers now, too—and she wants her baby to have her last name.”
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“It’s her name, you cannot do anything about it. It is not owned by you, she chose to take it and she can choose to keep it. That’s how it works. Maybe she just likes the name,” added another.
Others suggest that while the man was allowed to feel weird about it he was in the wrong for confronting his ex and calling her obsessive.