NAMING a baby can be difficult.
When people don’t see eye-to-eye with their child’s name, arguments and tensions often arise.
One woman said she was happy with the name her husband chose for their daughter, until she realized the reason behind it just a few weeks before giving birth.
Posting to Reddit, the woman said her husband chose the name “Esther” and she fell in love with it.
A couple weeks before the woman gave birth, she decided to check her husband’s phone after he received a text from his best friend James.
“I’m not the type to check my husband’s phone because I trust him, but I made an exception as I was curious if my husband asked James when his wife was having a baby shower!”
To her surprise, however, the message contained something more troubling.
“The text read ‘Does —- know you’re naming your baby after your ex? It’s been bothering me knowing this. How could you do this to her?’”
The woman said she was overcome with rage and anger.
She called her mother and told her that she and the baby would be moving into her house once she gave birth.
“I didn’t talk to my husband, didn’t bring up what I saw, but when I gave birth I completely chose a different name, didn’t allow him to visit me and the baby – which made him furious!
“I completely blocked him from any way of contacting me.”
She said that her husband’s family is also furious with her, as they think she overreacted to something as simple as a name choice.
Reddit users, too, thought the woman’s approach was a bit over the top:
“You’re not the a**hole for changing the name. You are the a**hole for blocking him and not letting him see his newborn child. Extreme overreaction!!” one person wrote.
“So, the child should be denied a father? Don’t see why the baby should be punished,” added another.
After reading through some of the comments, the woman added that while she now knows it was “a little overdramatic,” the name choice “genuinely hurt” her mental health and she didn’t want to harm the baby by causing a scene at the hospital – so she just blocked her husband out instead.
She further explained: “I didn’t BAN him from seeing/visiting his child, I just banned him from the delivery room when I gave birth and the day after it. I was not in the right mindset to see him. He could see his child afterwards!”
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The woman added that they were now in contact and considering getting counseling, but she’s still hurt by the secrecy.
“I genuinely wouldn’t have been upset by it if he would’ve just been honest from the start.”
