You helped me move on from my colleague and get my career back on track
DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I fell for my colleague, my emotions were a mess.
She liked me too, but she was married so I knew we couldn’t be together.
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I am 40 and a single man, while she is 42.
We both felt this insane chemistry, which made it hard to concentrate.
After a work drink, we ended up kissing, but she stopped it going further.
I wrote to you because I was starting to underperform at work as a result. All I could think about was being with her.
You gently told me I needed to be strong and distance myself from her, or I would end up wrecking my career.
You advised that I shouldn’t socialise with her outside work and suggested ways I could meet someone else who was available.
I took your guidance on board. Working from home helped, and time apart made my feelings less intense.
I have since met a few women online and have been on some dates.
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Although I do still have feelings for my colleague, I am much less confused and can do my job properly.
We have agreed to be friends. Thank you, Deidre.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Being friends does sound like the right thing.
I’m glad my advice helped clarify things.